Thoughts and Insights
I read a blog today in which the author kept referring to people who have been through rape or sexual assault as victims. Normally I just let it go and think of this as the terminology of someone who doesn’t understand. However, this time the person who was writing was doing the writing to try to show what life is like for a victim after the fact. I commented on this explaining that to call someone who has been through this horrible ordeal a victim, just serves to re-enforce that they are a victim instead of empowering them to be a survivor.
Having said this, I want to ask you all. Do you take issue with the word victim? Have you gotten to the point where you know you are a survivor? Do you feel that calling us victims is a bad thing that re-enforces that we are victims or that it is just a word that means nothing? I am asking you because I want to know your thoughts.
Personally I loathe the word victim. That was a part of my life where I let what had happened to me cloud my world, rule my ability to love and ruin my ability to be in a safe, happy and healthy relationship. That is why I named this blog VictimNoMore. Because I have moved past being a victim into the realm of survivor and I am much happier here.
Posted on August 15, 2011, in Counseling, Rape, Therapy, Uncategorized and tagged Blog, Blogging, Blogs, Rape, Sexual Abuse and Assault, Sexual assault, Support Groups, Victims, Violence and Abuse. Bookmark the permalink. 7 Comments.